“I have gotten one question repeatedly from young men. These are guys who liked the book, but they are honestly confused. They ask me why Melinda was so upset about being raped.
The first dozen times I heard this, I was horrified. But I heard it over and over again. I realized that many young men are not being taught the impact that sexual assault has on a woman. They are inundated by sexual imagery in the media, and often come to the (incorrect) conclusion that having sex is not a big deal. This, no doubt, is why the number of sexual assaults is so high.”—
Laurie Halse Anderson, author of Speak, on the question “Have any readers ever asked questions that shocked you?”
Read that again. Read it again, and again, and again. Over and over guys have asked her why Melinda was so upset about being raped. This is a girl who went to a party with friends. She was thirteen. She had a drink, because everyone else was. And a senior held her down and raped her while she was too drunk to get away.
And guys don’t understand why she was upset.
Read that again and then come back and tell me again why I should just shut up and take a joke when a comedian blows off rape as a big deal, or women’s bodies are casually treated as commodities in media. Remind me why I shouldn’t care about the very real harm that society’s treatment of women and sexual assault does.
Listen to me, you can’t fix people. Your love won’t make him stop hating his father and your devotion won’t cure her of her childhood. All you can do is be there, violets sprouting out from your ribs, acceptance on your lips, your own wounds still bleeding and all you can do is be there and sometimes that’s enough, sometimes that’s everything.
sorry i haven’t been on much i’m sure you don’t all care but i have big news- and it’s fluffy~
I got a bunny! he was a sort of rescue (friend found him on the road) they think he is about a year old i’m gonna take him to the vet as soon as i can. Anyways i’ll put some pictures up soon he is black and white and a cutie <: I named him Bento, Ben for short. Also thinking i’ll start a side blog for his and my adventures and pictures etc etc.
DISCLAIMER: i realize how much commitment a bunny is, ten+ years of strict diet with lots of timothy hay. I have done ridiculous amounts of research i promise to any bunny lovers he is in good hands. Especially compared to the ones he was in before they abandoned him. rude.
PEOPLE WHO ARE FINE DO NOT BLEED AND VOMIT LIKE THAT
shh sshhh~ The nose thing happens more often than you think and it wasn’t a full blown nose bleed I promise. The vomiting could be anxiety I don’t knowww, either way there is no clinic around here that would be open now